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What EXACTLY are you Getting out of It?

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If you're fat, broke, or your relationships stink, why don't you stop and ask yourself just what it is that you are getting out of that situation that causes you to stay there year after year?

Before you seriously consider these concepts, however, put your Excuse Hat in the closet and lock the door, because your excuses are what have powered your ability to get to where you presently are in life. If you want things to change, then your excuses need to go away!

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All of us living the 3-dimensional existence here on planet Earth have dreams, aspirations, goals, etc., and sometimes we even make a consistent effort to see them realized. However, more often than not, people refuse to consistently do what it takes to effect long-term, positive changes in their lives. As a result, they mindlessly stay on a road that leads nowhere, in a car they don't even want to be in, surrounded by people they would just as soon leave at the next rest stop.

What EXACTLY are you getting out of that type of situation??

Sure, it's easy to just sit back and know that you want to lose weight, make more money, or be in better relationships, but why not take a more active role in your own happiness by simply asking yourself: "What am I getting out of the fact that this area of my life isn't what I want it to be?"

If you're Fat

If you are, and you're offended right now, then that should be a huge red flag that you aren't getting what you want out of your level of health and fitness.

Do you like how it feels to hide your body behind clothes that disguise your curves? Do you like the fact that you see people every single day who have the type of body that you want to have? Do you like the fact that your self esteem and your self confidence take a hit every time you look in the mirror? Do you like the fact that other people have something that you want, but have been unable to attain?

Unless you can answer yes to those types of questions, then what exactly is it that is stopping you from taking the consistent, long-term steps necessary to lose weight? Don't forget - the excuses are locked in a closet right now.

For most people, that will leave them with nothing to say in their defense, because excuses are all that they have been putting their back against for all of these years.

If you're Broke

Money might not buy happiness, but it sure does buy plenty of opportunities and freedoms that allow us to do the things that cause happiness in our lives. If you've been struggling with finances, what exactly is it that you are enjoying so much about that struggle that causes you to keep doing it?

Do you like never having the money to do the things you want to do? Do you like worrying about whether or not you are going to have enough money to pay your bills? Do you like creditors and bill collectors calling you? Do you like seeing other people with the material goods or experiences that you want to have, yet you can't have because you're broke?

Unless you can answer yes to those types of questions, then what is stopping you from cleaning up your finances, and finding abundance in your life? With your excuses firmly locked away in the closet, the only thing you should be thinking right now is: "You're right! It's time to finally make changes after all these years!"

If you're Relationships Stink

You may not feel that it is within your power to magically bring Mr. or Mrs. Right into your life, but you can control whether or not you stay with your present significant other, or whether or not your present relationship includes the experiences that you want to have.

Do you enjoy having someone in your life who doesn't treat you the way that you want to be treated? Do you enjoy feeling like you are trapped in a relationship that you don't want to be in? Do you enjoy fantasizing about a person or a relationship that is a far cry from where you are right now? Do you enjoy clocking off the precious, limited amount of hours in your life while having a relationship status that does not bring you joy?

Unless you can answer yes to those types of questions, then why exactly is it that you don't make the hard decisions or take the appropriate action in order to change your circumstances? With your excuses locked away in the closet, it may very well be time to start taking massive action in order to safeguard your own happiness.


Were the examples that were given blunt, and to the point? You bet they were, because that is exactly what people need to hear! The B.S. politically correct atmosphere that our world is enshrouded in does nothing but help people feel better about the fact that they aren't willing to do what it takes to improve their lives.

So, what are you going to do now? Will you continue to be fat, broke, or unhappy in your relationships, or will you leave the excuses safely locked away in the closet and start taking control over your life?

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Doing it Differently Blog Carnival, 17th Edition

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Welcome to the 17th edition of the Doing it Differently Blog Carnival!

This carnival is dedicated to the concept of stepping outside of the box and living our lives in ways beyond the "norm"!

Whether you want to learn unique ways to think or act differently, or if you want to share your own unique ideas, this carnival is for you!

There will be a new edition of the carnival posted every month, on or around the 15th . You can click here to learn more, or click here to submit a post for the next edition, which will be posted on April 15, 2008.

If you like this carnival or if you are one of the authors featured in this edition, be sure to add this post to Stumbleupon, Digg, or your favorite social bookmarking site!

Self Improvement/Personal Growth

The Happy and Prosperous Blog - Listening To Your Intuition

LivingUtility - Living from the inside out

360-degree Success - Barack Obama: 8 Success Lessons We Can Learn from him

Potential 2 Success - Bounce Back After Failure

Energies of Creation - The Internet as Playground for Creative Evolution of Consciousness

Business/Success

The Engaging Brand Blog - Do you see your business as human?

INTJ Personal Development - How To Expand Your Business Through Quality And Word Of Mouth

Yes to Me - If You Want To Become An Entrepreneur, Be With Entrepreneurs

James D. Brausch - Sign It

BigSellingWebsiteDesign - 17 essential “big selling” website strategies

Children/Youth Training

SharpBrains - Are Schools (Cognitively) Nutritive for Children's Complex Thinking?

Parenting Squad - Peanut Butter Baby Food? No Reason Not To

A Guide to Raising Great Kids - Teaching Our Boys To Recognize Their Emotions

AllAboutClothDiapers - How To Make A Fitted Cloth Diaper

Money

Nebulous Mooch - The Great Space Coaster

dotMakeMoneydotcom - How to Increase Credit Score While Lowering Debt

Truthful Lending - The Biggest Scam Your Bank Gets Away With Everyday

Health/Nutrition

FitBuff - 5 Benefits of Dark Chocolate - Facts You Need to Know Before Enjoying

Life. Money. Development. - Diet Tips for Preventing High Cholesterol Levels

Acupuncture Marketing for Clinics - When Herbalists Feel Rotten, This Is What They Do

Travel

Costa Rica, HQ - Costa Rican Food

Me, My Kid and Life - The European Exchange Rate and travel in Berlin, Germany

Less Than a Shoestring - No-Budget Tips for Venice and Mestre

Relationships

PublicFlirt - How to use Compliments with Women

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SFentrepreneur - Free Live Call with Marketing Guru Seth Godin - Meatball Sundae (April 9th) Hosted by SFentrepreneur

That wraps up the 17th edition of the Doing it Differently Blog Carnival! Many thanks to all of our authors, and don't forget to add this post to your favorite social bookmarking website. 

The next edition will be posted on April 15, 2007, and the closing of this edition is also the official call for submissions for the next one! Get the inside scoop on what this carnival is all about and access the submission form as well by clicking right here.

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The Position of Power and How to Use It

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It is a foregone conclusion that each of us is 100% in charge of our lives, yet as a species we still tend to let other people dictate how we feel, how our lives progress, or how happy we are in general.

This has to stop.

You are at this moment (and you always have been) in a position of power over your life. No one can control what happens from this point forward except for you; it doesn't matter what your present situation is. No matter who you are, or what your circumstances are, you can start right now to exercise your position of power, and you will retain that right for as long as you live.

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Wow! Pretty cool, right? Okay, now what the heck does all of that mean?

In short, a position of power is simply your ability to control every single aspect of your life. However, a more situation-specific use of your position of power is where the magic really starts to happen!

Whenever you are considering any given course of action in your life, but you aren't 100% confident that things will go your way, or that you will do the "right" thing, adopting a position of power with regards to that specific situation will put you in a frame of mind that ensures your success.

Career/Job

It is perfectly natural to question your level of confidence or your abilities when you are looking for a rewarding career position, but it is also completely unnecessary - if you have the right attitude.

I guarantee that no matter where you work or want to work, if you have a burning desire and intention to do everything in your power to succeed, you are already in a position to do that job 10 times better than people who have more experience than you, or who have more education.

Your desire and your intention to do a good job are far more valuable than any education, or even a gold-plated resume'. In fact, any employer that you are considering interviewing with would be lucky if you even gave them the opportunity to hire you.

That's a position of power!

Health and Fitness

Many people who have struggled with their weight or their ability to be healthy will have very serious issues when it comes to having the confidence to achieve long-term success, or to excel in their fitness or athletic ventures.

There is nothing that you cannot do when it comes to your physical body. In fact, the physiology of the human body when it comes to weight loss or athletic success is one of the most well understood of all of the sciences.

If you have been led to believe that you can't lose weight or become an athlete because of your genetics or because of some physical limitation, you have been lied to.

Adopt the attitude now - once and for all - that you CAN achieve success, that you WILL achieve success, and in fact, you HOPE someone tries to talk you out of it, because you're ready to blow them out of the water with your confidence and your resolve to succeed.

That's a position of power!

Relationships

Are you trying to find that Mr. or Mrs. Right, but you think you're not attractive, or that you're overweight, or that you're not smart enough, funny enough, entertaining enough, blah, blah, blah…

If you keep thinking that way, you'll find a way to prove yourself right over and over again. You probably already have several times.

You can have anything that you want when it comes to relationship success!

Have you ever seen a guy who has a huge beer belly and bad body odor, yet he is dating one of the hottest girls in town? Have you ever seen a girl with curves in all the wrong places and really bad acne, yet she is on the arm of a guy who could be an underwear model for Calvin Klein?

Is it magic? Are those people under some sort of a spell? Are they being blackmailed or coerced?

Hardly. In those instances, the people who seem like unlikely candidates for the relationship success that they've achieved have simply adopted a winning attitude - they have a position of power. As far as they are concerned, Ms. Hottie and Mr. Underwear Model Guy are lucky to even get their time and attention.

That's a position of power!

Every situation that was just described could also be reversed:

  • When it's time for you to leave a job, not only is your present employer lucky to have gotten as much of your time as they have, but they owe you a good letter of recommendation, too! Even if you don't deserve one, you can probably still get it if your attitude is on straight when you ask for it.
  • When it comes time for you to stand down from your position as head health nut in your neighborhood or at your gym, you have already done your bit for King and Country. Make plans to continue on your own health and fitness path; the people that you have helped are better off for having had you in their lives. In fact, they should throw you a big going away party - complete with lots of cake and ice cream!
  • When it's time for you to leave a relationship, you aren't getting "away" from someone that you don't want to be with anymore. Rather, you have simply grown into a person that is no longer compatible with your previous mate. Not only are you well within your rights to take the nearest exit, but YOU will call the shots on how it all ends, not the other person.

Those are all positions of power.

YOU have the Position of Power!Here's the thing, though: Nothing has physically changed in any of the situations described above. In most cases, you will not be any smarter, cuter, richer, more educated, more evolved, or more experienced than you were when you started.

However, your mind is in the right place now, and your mind is what controls how you feel, what you say, and what you do.

How cool is it that by simply changing your mind, you can change your life? 

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Doing it Differently Blog Carnival, 16th Edition

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Welcome to the 16th edition of the Doing it Differently Blog Carnival!

This carnival is dedicated to the concept of stepping outside of the box and living our lives in ways beyond the "norm"!

Whether you want to learn unique ways to think or act differently, or if you want to share your own unique ideas, this carnival is for you!

There will be a new edition of the carnival posted every month, on or around the 15th . You can click here to learn more, or click here to submit a post for the next edition, which will be posted on March 15, 2008.

If you like this carnival or if you are one of the authors featured in this edition, be sure to add this post to Stumbleupon, Digg, or your favorite social bookmarking site!

Personal Growth

SlowDownFast - If You Don’t Assume Responsibility, Who Will?

Frederic Patenaude Talks - The Power of Rituals: How to Build Positive, Energizing Daily Rituals 

Stephen Martile - How to Change Your Beliefs with Praxis, Part 1 

Gratitude Magic - Why Our New Year’s Resolutions Fail 

Personal Growth with Corinne Edwards - Hillary and Your Soft Underbelly 

I will change your Life - What Are You Doing That’s Different?

Self Help Blog - Procrastination Case Study 

Enhance Life - If You Want To Be Understood… 

Personal Hack - 9 Smart Perseverance Tips

Bootstrapper - 17 Ways to Stop Being a Perfectionist and Get More Done

Law of Attraction for Beginners - Waking Up Without An Alarm Clock

Never the Same River Twice - Weekend SmallChange: Listen to Deliriously Happy Music

We The Change - Top 31 Motivation Hacks 

Money/Success

Cyberca$hology - Costanza Success Principles

Copywriting Tips for Your Business - Saying Thanks… 

Money Blue BookHow To Earn Free Airline Miles With Credit Cards

Miss Copy's Blog - How To Kick Writers’ Block

Stephen Dean's Blog - Deciphering Cosmopolitan Magazines

Personal Development by INTJ - Why You Should Be Careful When Your Business Is Going Well 

Wisdom From Wenchypoo's Mental Wastebasket - Working for Perks and Benefits—Revised for 2008 

FYI About.com - Sell Your House And Rent It Back: Avoid Foreclosure

The Michel Fortin Blog - Give Your Joint-Venture Offer An Extra Punch

Relationships

The Next 45 Years - How to Love Consciously

dotGirlfriend - 10 Best Chick Flicks for a Sexy Movie Night

Schaefer's Blog - Say What You Need

Postcards from Nowhere - Love lets Go 

Intelligence

Sharp Brains - Mindfulness and Meditation in Schools for Stress Management

James D. Brausch - Your Natural Genius 

Learn a foreign language blog - The ultimate guide to successful language learning – Part one 

Health

Tupelo Kenyon - Finally the Truth About Diet – The China Study Review 

Total Wellbeing - Kangaroo Meat – Good For You AND the Environment

The Environment

BeThisWay - Gross and Not-So-Gross Ways to Save Water, and Money 

Energies of Creation - Why I Don’t Burn Cars Anymore


That wraps up the 16th edition of the Doing it Differently Blog Carnival! Many thanks to all of our authors, and don't forget to add this post to your favorite social bookmarking website!

The next edition will be posted on March 15, 2008, and the closing of this edition is also the official call for submissions for the next one! Get the inside scoop on what this carnival is all about and access the submission form as well by clicking right here.

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Doing it Differently Blog Carnival, 15th Edition

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Welcome to the 15th edition of the Doing it Differently Blog Carnival!

This carnival is dedicated to the concept of stepping outside of the box and living our lives in ways beyond the "norm"!

Whether you want to learn unique ways to think or act differently, or if you want to share your own unique ideas, this carnival is for you!

There will be a new edition of the carnival posted every month, on or around the 15th. You can click here to learn more, or click here to submit a post for the next edition, which will be posted on February 15, 2008.

If you like this carnival or if you are one of the authors featured in this edition, be sure to add this post to Stumbleupon, Digg, or your favorite social bookmarking site!

Money/Success

Gratitude Magic - How to Get Rich and Happy

Bull Returns - Stock Investing vs. Stock Trading 

Me, My Kid and Life - Finding Your Special Talent

Marcus Hochstadt - Pay Business Expenses Wisely And Travel For Free 

Cyberca$hology - How to Avoid a Brutal Beating

Brip Blap - Follow the white rabbit to financial freedom

Carol Bentley - I hereby give you permission to. . .

Create a Thriving Business - Is it wrong to be abundant AND spiritual?

Personal Growth 

Juggling Frogs -In Praise of Parallax 

7P Productions - Something Different, Something Real

Slow Down FAST - Don't be a Puppet, Make Your Own Choices 

The Dark Grin - Why You Choose to Get Angry

Potential 2 Success - Hunter, Scavenger, or Prey: Which life are you living? 

Dr Martin W. Russell - Reverse Your But

Stephen Martile - Change 

Health

Tupelo Kenyon - Is Food Your Medicine or Poison? 

Total Wellbeing - Cycling and Your Wellbeing

Goal Setting/Achievement

Never the Same River Twice - Having Goals Will Make You Blind! 

Relationships

INTJ Personal Development - How To Find A Wife/Husband 

The Environment

Life, the Universe, and Everything - Atlas Will Shrug

Marketing

Big Selling Website Design - The Law of Necessity 

That wraps up the 15th edition of the Doing it Differently Blog Carnival! Many thanks to all of our authors, and don't forget to add this post to your favorite social bookmarking website!

The next edition will be posted on February 15, 2008, and the closing of this edition is also the official call for submissions for the next one! Get the inside scoop on what this carnival is all about and access the submission form as well by clicking right here.
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