Comments on: Can you Shut Up for just a Minute? http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/ Thu, 29 Jul 2010 03:35:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: aaron http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1326 aaron Wed, 12 Sep 2007 16:24:28 +0000 http://www.todayisthatday.com/blog/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1326 Abdul, It has been said many times that identifying the problem is 50% of the solution, so that is a good place to start. After that comes the practicing part. Before you know it, it will be second nature to you! :) Abdul,

It has been said many times that identifying the problem is 50% of the solution, so that is a good place to start.

After that comes the practicing part. Before you know it, it will be second nature to you! :)

]]> By: Abdul Rahman http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1325 Abdul Rahman Tue, 11 Sep 2007 13:37:04 +0000 http://www.todayisthatday.com/blog/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1325 Heh. Easy to talk, hard to do. I remembered when my friends have a problem, I do listened but after few minutes... I do what normally people do, talking about themselves. ... Easy to say, hard to implement. Heh. Easy to talk, hard to do. I remembered when my friends have a problem, I do listened but after few minutes… I do what normally people do, talking about themselves.

… Easy to say, hard to implement.

]]> By: How to Be Boring » I will change your life . com http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1324 How to Be Boring » I will change your life . com Mon, 10 Sep 2007 05:22:14 +0000 http://www.todayisthatday.com/blog/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1324 [...] Because here is a news flash: its not. When someone is talking to you, actually listen to them instead of just waiting for a chance to speak. And when you do open your mouth, don’t always relate what the other person has said back to your life. See Aaron’s Can You Shut Up For Just A Minute? for more on what I mean by this. [...] [...] Because here is a news flash: its not. When someone is talking to you, actually listen to them instead of just waiting for a chance to speak. And when you do open your mouth, don’t always relate what the other person has said back to your life. See Aaron’s Can You Shut Up For Just A Minute? for more on what I mean by this. [...]

]]> By: Friday Funnies from Today is that Day | Today is that Day http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1323 Friday Funnies from Today is that Day | Today is that Day Fri, 13 Jul 2007 15:37:15 +0000 http://www.todayisthatday.com/blog/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1323 [...] shut up you lazy bastard - HAHAHAHA! I almost spit my coffee on my laptop screen when I first saw this one! Most likely in response to the post 'Can you Shut Up for just a Minute?' which has rapidly become one of the most popular posts on this site. I'm just glad I wasn't too lazy to write it! [...] [...] shut up you lazy bastard – HAHAHAHA! I almost spit my coffee on my laptop screen when I first saw this one! Most likely in response to the post 'Can you Shut Up for just a Minute?' which has rapidly become one of the most popular posts on this site. I'm just glad I wasn't too lazy to write it! [...]

]]> By: aaron http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1322 aaron Wed, 27 Jun 2007 17:19:25 +0000 http://www.todayisthatday.com/blog/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1322 Thanks for the positive feedback, Christy! One of the things that I strive to do is to "be aware" of my life so that I can enjoy every moment, and practicing the fine art of actually listening when people speak is a part of that. It's amazing what you can learn when you start paying attention! :) Thanks for the positive feedback, Christy!

One of the things that I strive to do is to “be aware” of my life so that I can enjoy every moment, and practicing the fine art of actually listening when people speak is a part of that. It’s amazing what you can learn when you start paying attention! :)

]]> By: Christy http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1321 Christy Wed, 27 Jun 2007 16:21:53 +0000 http://www.todayisthatday.com/blog/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1321 Hi Aaron, This is probably the most valuable thing anyone could ever write about! Great post! People are in general, terrible listeners. So many people think it's a mystery of how to make friends and have others like you...it's simple....listen to them...really listen and think about what they are saying. :) Hi Aaron,

This is probably the most valuable thing anyone could ever write about! Great post! People are in general, terrible listeners. So many people think it’s a mystery of how to make friends and have others like you…it’s simple….listen to them…really listen and think about what they are saying. :)

]]> By: Behind the glasses » Blog Archive » How to make a break http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1320 Behind the glasses » Blog Archive » How to make a break Sun, 17 Jun 2007 19:36:30 +0000 http://www.todayisthatday.com/blog/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1320 [...] You can make a break by visiting a colleague in another room to discuss the current common problem, but remember that every conversation can be focused. Instead of exchange of statements, both participants in a conversation should be focused to each other. Aaron Potts of Today is that day reminds us that sometimes we should shut up for just a minute. This is not just a matter of a decent behaviour but has a practical side too. In addition, by intending to fully focus on what they are saying, the old adage “two heads are better than one” kicks in. Instead of one person with a problem or a success to voice their opinion about, there will be two heads participating in either finding a resolution or celebrating the good fortune. [...] [...] You can make a break by visiting a colleague in another room to discuss the current common problem, but remember that every conversation can be focused. Instead of exchange of statements, both participants in a conversation should be focused to each other. Aaron Potts of Today is that day reminds us that sometimes we should shut up for just a minute. This is not just a matter of a decent behaviour but has a practical side too. In addition, by intending to fully focus on what they are saying, the old adage “two heads are better than one” kicks in. Instead of one person with a problem or a success to voice their opinion about, there will be two heads participating in either finding a resolution or celebrating the good fortune. [...]

]]> By: aaron http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1319 aaron Thu, 14 Jun 2007 13:11:09 +0000 http://www.todayisthatday.com/blog/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1319 Chris, You are right on both counts! Speaking only when it would benefit others is good advice, but at the same time, a certain level of maturity is certainly needed before one can internalize and practice that concept! :) Chris,

You are right on both counts!

Speaking only when it would benefit others is good advice, but at the same time, a certain level of maturity is certainly needed before one can internalize and practice that concept! :)

]]> By: Chris Wondra http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1318 Chris Wondra Thu, 14 Jun 2007 12:38:00 +0000 http://www.todayisthatday.com/blog/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1318 Ben Franklin advised, "Speak only when it might benefit yourself or others." Short and sweet, but try telling that to a middle schooler. Ha! Chris Ben Franklin advised, “Speak only when it might benefit yourself or others.”

Short and sweet, but try telling that to a middle schooler. Ha!

Chris

]]> By: aaron http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1317 aaron Thu, 14 Jun 2007 01:25:00 +0000 http://www.todayisthatday.com/blog/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1317 David, Then you are already on the path to success, because you've seen this technique in action, so you know that it works. One of big reasons why people don't follow through on any given self development concept is because even though it looks good on paper, without irrefutable evidence, they can't quite silence their inner belief that positive steps down a certain path are even possible. Since you've already experienced the fact that this concept holds water, you are well-armed to start using it sooner in conversations than you have in the past, and that benefits everyone involved. :) David,

Then you are already on the path to success, because you’ve seen this technique in action, so you know that it works.

One of big reasons why people don’t follow through on any given self development concept is because even though it looks good on paper, without irrefutable evidence, they can’t quite silence their inner belief that positive steps down a certain path are even possible.

Since you’ve already experienced the fact that this concept holds water, you are well-armed to start using it sooner in conversations than you have in the past, and that benefits everyone involved. :)

]]> By: David http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1316 David Wed, 13 Jun 2007 23:54:08 +0000 http://www.todayisthatday.com/blog/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1316 I loved your post - I've been practicing this for some time now, and while I'm successful with it most of the time, I find that when I'm feeling needy or "off" for whatever reason, I tend to fall back into talking about myself. It's good though that at least after a few rounds of these selfish back-and-forths that I realize what's going on and I deliberately get silent - forcing myself to listen intently. This act almost always syncs me back to the person, getting my in tune with them, and oftentimes making myself feel better for being a better friend. I loved your post – I’ve been practicing this for some time now, and while I’m successful with it most of the time, I find that when I’m feeling needy or “off” for whatever reason, I tend to fall back into talking about myself. It’s good though that at least after a few rounds of these selfish back-and-forths that I realize what’s going on and I deliberately get silent – forcing myself to listen intently. This act almost always syncs me back to the person, getting my in tune with them, and oftentimes making myself feel better for being a better friend.

]]> By: aaron http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1315 aaron Wed, 13 Jun 2007 19:45:32 +0000 http://www.todayisthatday.com/blog/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1315 Mark, You are most welcome! I'm glad you liked it. And much obliged for enjoying the examples. I was really feeling like a playwright with writer's block for awhile there when I was trying to come up with real-world examples that would get the message across! ;) Mark,

You are most welcome! I’m glad you liked it.

And much obliged for enjoying the examples. I was really feeling like a playwright with writer’s block for awhile there when I was trying to come up with real-world examples that would get the message across! ;)

]]> By: aaron http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1314 aaron Wed, 13 Jun 2007 19:43:24 +0000 http://www.todayisthatday.com/blog/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1314 Thanks for the positive feedback, Patricia! I'm truly grateful that this is something that can be an immediate benefit for you, as well as others. That's what its all about! :) Thanks for the positive feedback, Patricia!

I’m truly grateful that this is something that can be an immediate benefit for you, as well as others.

That’s what its all about! :)

]]> By: aaron http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1311 aaron Wed, 13 Jun 2007 19:41:17 +0000 http://www.todayisthatday.com/blog/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1311 Stephen, Wow, what a great related piece to further send home the message that this post delivers! Thank you SO much for sharing that. The last line in that post say it all! Stephen,

Wow, what a great related piece to further send home the message that this post delivers! Thank you SO much for sharing that.

The last line in that post say it all!

]]> By: Mark http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1313 Mark Wed, 13 Jun 2007 19:06:43 +0000 http://www.todayisthatday.com/blog/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1313 Excellent article! It is true, many of us fall in to the trap of not listening. You gave some great examples on how we can improve our listening skills. I love it, thank-you! Excellent article! It is true, many of us fall in to the trap of not listening. You gave some great examples on how we can improve our listening skills.
I love it, thank-you!

]]> By: Patricia Schiavone http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1312 Patricia Schiavone Wed, 13 Jun 2007 17:51:47 +0000 http://www.todayisthatday.com/blog/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1312 Dear Aaron, THANK YOU! This is a fantastic article and you hit the nail on the head! I'll put this into practice immediately. :) Patricia Dear Aaron,

THANK YOU!

This is a fantastic article and you hit the nail on the head!

I’ll put this into practice immediately.
:) Patricia

]]> By: Stephen Hopson http://www.todayisthatday.com/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1310 Stephen Hopson Wed, 13 Jun 2007 15:36:25 +0000 http://www.todayisthatday.com/blog/can-you-shut-up-for-just-a-minute/#comment-1310 Aaron: Great post! Imagine what it's like for a deaf person to communicate with a hearing person by lip-reading their lips and staying focused! A friend of mine wrote about his experience with me when we had breakfast. It is here: http://www.stephenshapiro.com/2006/08/04/listeningwithout-hearing/ Cheers! Aaron:

Great post! Imagine what it’s like for a deaf person to communicate with a hearing person by lip-reading their lips and staying focused! A friend of mine wrote about his experience with me when we had breakfast. It is here:

http://www.stephenshapiro.com/2006/08/04/listeningwithout-hearing/

Cheers!

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